He who shall not be named was not a manly husband. Husbands are suppose to keep on top of home maintenance, car maintenance, etc. Let me be frank. My entire marriage consisted of me being not so much a wife but a mommy he slept with. I took care of all the cars, home, etc. I remember when he who shall not be named was unemployed. I said to him " hey, since you're not working, do you think you could help me out by loading the dishwasher?" And his response was the ridiculous "no. You only love me for what I can do for you, not for who I am."
Well. At that point he wasn't completely wring. Who is gonna love a lazy sack of crap?
Anyway. During the marriage, we had more than one time when his wallet got left at home, when he forgot to pay his registration, etc. Adhering to adult responsibilities was simply not something, and still is not something, he is capable of doing, One particular time, he dropped me off at work and left his wallet for some reason in the roof of his car. Within about an hour his name was broadcast all over the call center for which I was working and I went and reclaimed said wallet.
Our divorce has taken forever. We made it to the mediation phase and the big hang up was our parenting plan. You see, he who shall not be named does not feel he should pay child support so he has been fighting the process for almost a year. What do you think happened after court clinic? He who shall not be named locked his keys in his car. Not a lost wallet I grant you but still.
I helped him.
God is very merciful. He gently reminds you why things are as they are. In my case, I am now with a man who doesn't lose his wallet and is happy to help out around the house because he loves me.
When my children were born my mother expressed concern that he who shall not be named might actually lose them.
I told Captain Handsome that he who shall not be named (or capitalized) locked his keys in his car at court and I thought he would have a mini stroke laughing. Then he kindly says "you know baby, some people are just absent minded like that." My sweet pilot.
Thank you God for small favors.
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